Well, the idea is to link my posts about poliamory and the BDSM scene, in a last one that define my lifestyle… you know, the one that had been changing continously in the last months :-p
Everything started some days ago, when I discovered the wonderfull book called “The Ethical Slut”, by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt, and I decided to share briefly my own ideas…
Now I know I am poliamorous; I love a lot of people, and they know it, and they let me love them and the others.
Added bonus: I seem to be invulnerable to jealousy, open minded, virtualy bisexual (but not at RL, even if now I look at women with other eyes sometimes, mainly when they look like Natsumi).
Minuses: Too little time, and the annoyances of a double life. I will not try to explain how my RL fatefull monogamy can mix with my SL life… it works for me, even if there had been some dangerous moments. Ah, yes, I am usually too lazy to want to have sex, so it is a pain to get me started… but don’t get me started talking, it is hard to stop me after it :-p
As a result of my time limitations, now I am monofamiliar: Natsumi, katrina and Maya are my exclusive lovers, even if they are free to taste fresher waters.
Do I desire other people? Yes. Inteligent, polite minds and beautifull avatars are a killing combination. But even if I feel tempted, it whouldn’t be right unless I asked permission to my loved ones first; worse, even if I can try casual sex, I usually get too involved… and that get us back to the time problem, always the time. It whouldn’t be fair, so I am faithfull to my family.
A wonderfull secondary effect of this decision is that now i can praise, tease, be praised and be teased, without worring too much about the consecuences. My pseudomonogamy shields me from the classical negative thinking “whould he/she/it be mistaked and think I am trying to hit on he/she/it?”.
The conclusion? I am happy, in love and sometimes horny; mostly horny with the ones I love, and I can resist when it is about others :-p.
*** Note: After ending the post, I found that I missed to add a footnote, as in all the others; so, to honour the Good Doctor and Sophrosyne’s cybernetic life, here you have the three laws of my lifestyle :-)
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- Try not to hurt anybody, but solve and talk painfull situations when necesary.
- Love, and give yourself fully to your love, if it doesn’t go against the first law.
- Explore, have fun and take risks, if they don’t go against the first and second laws.
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“Polyamorous” is the perfect way to describe me, although I’m not ready to limit myself to three people yet. ;)
Hehe, and you don’t need to limit, either. For some people, it works.. for others it doesn’t. I couldn’t do it.. Besides the fact that I have many many people that I Love very much.. I also have a few little family like units that I belong to, that are all deeply in Love with each other.. But, I also have the time to support that way of Loving, too. For now, anyway, as who knows what the future holds. I Live and Love with the flow of Life.. what happens happens. My Love never dies down, always grows.. though people that simply dissappear, no warning, no contact.. I simply can’t handle that very well, and they have to get pushed out of my system, else I’ll miss them too much.. though if there’s a valid reason.. there’s always room in my heart for a return. ^^
Erm.. Back to the point. .. .. uhm.. what was my point? … Eh, whatever. ::Pounces London and smothers with lots and lots of kisses.:: Love you~
Diannah, I understand you don’t have to limit yourself… but be carefull, I whouldn’t say that “my” three are “only” three… I am not limiting myself, I am overcomed and overawed :-)
Kat… *smiles, misses the point too and kisses you back*
It’s good to know that you are happy with your family situation as it is now. And it’s very good and healthy for you that you don’t feel jealousy at all, as there aren’t many people who can honestly claim that (as I had to learn the hard way …).
*hugs*
*Hugs back* Yes, I am happy, even if it has it’s ups and it’s downs :-p.
And yes, I am not jealous, but not perfect. For example, I felt a bit odd when I discovered somebody partnered so suddenly *giggles*
*Smiles warmly* It is good to know you are happy too, Tim.
It was not that suddenly … maybe we should talk more often, to keep you updated ;)