Dandelion just wrote a post about how some news that touched SLEX (sex at SL) brought a flood of newcomers, wanting to try it, but without a clue of how to practice it.
Reading dande’s post I noticed that I don’t think I know anybody who comed to SL looking for love, or sex, even if a lot of us eventually found it. I have talked already about how I comed to SL to “have a look”, and how I got involved in the sweet-sour sexual variations of virtual concupiscence, and love.
I don’t like open questions (mainly because they look so ridiculous when nobody answers them), but I wonder about how many of us comed here and found more than they where looking for, and if it has been positive, as it have been for me.
Second Life may be a laggy virtual enviroment, riled with asset server issues and ruled by a company that has an awfull way sometimes (but not always; LL reloaded our sim so we could recover our items after our landlord, Lillie’s business partner, dropped it without advice). As I said before, I find little joy at SL enviroment just now.
But to me SL is also a milestone, a quantum leap in social networks, a place where you could really live and explore your fantasies, your dreams. For some years, it was my rabbit hole, and I was Alice.
So, even I find pitiful to see clueless newbies trying to open the door to pleasure with the blunt “wanna fuck” key, I cannot forget that I was also a nebwie once; never so blunt, but newbie anyway, not knowing the depts of what was waiting for me here, and I like to think that some of the hordes that invade us will stay, and have enough patience to learn, and become true members of SL, and eventually share their inner worlds with us.
Still… “wanna fuck”…
*shudders*.
I did not come to SL looking for romance or sex. I actually came out of a professional interest, what made me stay however where the friendships and people. For almost a year I looked critical at SL relationships blooming around me and – to be honest – with quite some sarcasm too. Until romance acted revenge on me, and I experienced my first SLove. The fact that I got played with from the start on, and that it ended in Hollywood-like drama, does not change the fact that it was real love for me, and that I suddenly understood all my friends with relationships. For me, SL gives me a lot which I don’t have in RL, and among the greatest gifts is companionship, respect, affection and love.
I shared your critical look: before SL, I never understood how people could look for, and find, romance at chat rooms, and looked dismisively at them. To be true I still do, but only because virtual worlds are way better than chat rooms!!! You, chatters! Get updated! (says the one who doesn’t Plurk:-p).
My first true SL love was quiet, sweet, romantic and (will you belive it?) platonic. It is a pity that yours was so bad, but at least it shows you know of the big truths of live; stand back and keep walking, even if your ass is bare…
(You know, the picks for your rezday? Gurrl 6 guy? Do you notice a trend? :-)